Tuesday, December 20, 2011

My Christmas Wishes for June

On this, your first of a lifetime of Christmases, allow me make some wishes for you.

I wish for you enjoy your family and the one you marry into. May it be a difficult decision which one you spend your Christmas with because you want to spend time with both, not neither. May you carry with you charming stories of wonky family members and not be one of the damaged people who hates the holidays because of memories. I have been blessed in this way and I want the same for you.

I wish for you to love and appreciate the glow of candlelight.

I wish for you to love the smells and flavors of Christmas. To have a healthy sweet tooth, to enjoy but not overindulge. When you learn the trick of this, teach it to me. I wish for you to enjoy the warmth that spreads through you when you take the first bite of your still-warm Christmas cookies, but to appreciate more the warmth you feel when you wrap up the rest to give to others.

I wish for Christmas music to fill you with joy, and to have forbearance when you must suffer through yet another rendition of “This Christmas.”

I wish for you to look outside to see falling snow and feel wonder, not annoyance or dread.

I wish for you to understand the real meaning of Christmas, that this is the day that we celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ. I wish for it to remind you of what kind of man Jesus was and that the most important thing in this life is how we make other people feel.

I wish for you to keep within you a childlike love for the holidays. Keep this light shining within you forever, no matter what.

Sometimes I start to feel my grip on Christmas slipping. I give in to the siren song of Planning and start focusing more on the things that need to be cleaned and gifts that need to be found and the laundry that needs to be done and then packed. I hope that I can hold on and hold out. That you can help me keep sight of the things that are important, that together we can love and look forward to this season because of – and not in spite of – all the craziness that accompanies it.


  1. Julie: my heart overflows as the tears roll down my cheeks. How well you have captured the essence of what your mother and I (and likely all mothers and fathers) wish for their children as they approach their very first Christmas.

    Since I am here in Delaware without the joy of my family, I am finding it harder to 'get into that Christmas spirit', until Sunday evening when I attended a Christmas Cantata at a local church, and the children's choir sang with unscripted joy....I started getting into the right frame of mind.

    Then, your blog said it all, and I cannot wait to see my family. Thanks, Julie for always helping me to 'hear the angels sing'!!

    Fly safe, have fun with the Shockley clan, and hurry home to us. Love always, Dad

  2. Julie, your words warm my heart. You are so eloquent

    in your writing. As your dad said, these are all the things we wished for you then and now. Enjoy your trip to Indiana and Illinois and hurry home to us. We'll be waiting to build even more warm memories with the Martin clan!
    Love you all,

  3. You always know how to choke-me-up. You have such a way with words and expressing yourself. June is so lucky to have you as a mom!